"But precisely when we’re doing everything, it also means we can’t do anything well. When we can’t do anything well, it signifies that we don’t truly know what we’re doing—"
"The period of life’s confusion has arrived."
The young man’s face showed the joy of ’being seen.’ "Mr. Ning, that’s exactly how I feel. I sense I’m very restless now, and I’m searching for the reasons. I’ve even asked a lot of friends, and they analyzed many reasons for me. Some even said it’s because of the poor environment of the company I joined, or that my home’s feng shui isn’t conducive to a career. Some said I don’t get along with the bosses of those companies. There are all sorts of random reasons..."
Ning Youguang felt a mix of amusement and disbelief, "For these factors troubling you, how have you dealt with them before?"
"Most of the time, I chose to evade and not accept them, opting for other places. But later, I realized this only made me constantly waste time and energy."
"Constantly immersed in life’s uncertainties."
"Yes." The youth said helplessly, "I hope I can break free from this vicious cycle. I’ve seen some people; they don’t refuse to live in a house just because the feng shui is bad, and they don’t stop interacting with someone just because they feel uncomfortable. They always find ways to balance things, and throughout, they remain calm and at ease without getting anxious. I hope I can be like that, too."
"That’s because they have deeply held beliefs in their hearts, and they know what they truly want. They’re very clear that what they need to do is strive to balance all adverse factors around them, to strive for their goals. With a focused heart, success follows. As the saying goes, ’the environment is transformed by the heart,’ and everything external relies on the inner heart to change," Ning Youguang said with understanding.
"Yes, Mr. Ning." The young man paused slightly and then continued, "My biggest problem now is that I don’t know what I truly want. I keep trying and making mistakes, but the sunk cost is already high, and I still haven’t found it. I see some of my classmates—some are doing very well in their careers, and I see their confident states in social media circles. Occasionally, I feel a bit envious, but most of the time, I feel like I can’t do it."
After talking with the young man, Ning Youguang discovered that the young man was actually very smart and was continually exploring the path of self-growth.
For now, he has just encountered some obstacles that he cannot overcome, and there is no one around who understands or helps him through this period of confusion.
She said, "If you temporarily can’t find what your heart truly wants, don’t be afraid, and don’t rush. You can focus on the present and do well in what you can do now. This way, all of life’s uncertainties will slowly recede like the tide, and certainty will emerge. By then, you’ll feel secure and see the meaning of your existence in this life, and your life will naturally blossom."
The young man listened to her words and pondered them slightly.
Ning Youguang continued, "The moment you decide to be yourself, you become your own ’creator,’ and eternal life begins."
The young man thought for a moment and asked, "Do you mean, Mr. Ning, that you hope I can be ’steadfast in heart’ while searching for direction?"
Ning Youguang nodded appreciatively, "Yes, first find what your heart relies on, then move forward confidently. Time will give you the answer. During this process, have an honest conversation with your parents, and tell them to give you a bit of time and patience." 1314